LOVE is a four-letter word and a deeply-felt emotion but so is PAIN. Perhaps one of the biggest differences between the two is the fact that for many people, love is hard to find, hard to feel and must be earned.Pain, on the other hand, is not a quiet emotion and while some people think loving is hard, pain comes easy for everyone (it’s a sad truth).
There seems to be a stigma around emotional pain sometimes where if you are to express that you are hurting, then you are considered to be weak. This is wrong. You are strong. It takes a lot of effort to open up to people and we often can feel like allowing ourselves to be vulnerable puts us at risk to judgement. If there’s one thing I know for sure about emotional pain, it’s that we ALL feel it but how we handle it is different.
I can’t tell you how to deal with your situation because I won’t know what you’re facing but what I CAN do is tell you how I deal with my own emotional pain.
I’ve always found the first step to emotional healing is admitting and accepting that I am hurting in the first place. Denial can only cause confusion and once I’ve accepted how I’m feeling, it is then that I can process my thoughts.
Taking some time to be alone and reflect on my situation puts me in a place where I’m able to truly be on my own. Oftentimes when we are in emotional pain, we are stressed and upset and by making it a priority to spend some time by ourselves, we can more clearly think about the situation we are facing and adjust our perspective.
Don’t belittle your problems and shove it aside by saying it isn’t one because the moment it affects your daily life then it IS a problem. Quit thinking that people don’t want to hear about your issues because people that care for you will take the time to listen.
As clichéd as it sounds, we’ve all had moments where we’ve felt deep emotional pain yet we have somehow managed to make it through and even if this time may be worse than before or even the worst kind of pain yet, YOU and I know for a fact you can get through it again.
There are two types of pain – One that hurts you and the one that changes you. Every heart has a pain, only the way of expressing is different. Fools hide it in their eyes while Brilliant hide it on their Smile. Keep that curve up, always!
-Thoughts by N
thoughts by N 